One Flesh

As God has ordained, when a husband and wife get married they are no longer two, but one flesh. To be one flesh in marriage is to be united together…heart, mind and body, mutually serving, loving and giving. It is total oneness. Such unity is nurtured and maintained intentionally.

Be Inclusive

Being united as one flesh means you are to no longer think only of yourself. You must have a you, us, we mentality.

   You…put your husband before yourself.

              Us…willingly act in the best interest of your marriage.

              We…consider him, initiate, invite.

Daily take time to connect.  Sit in the company of your husband for at least 15 minutes of uninterrupted conversation. Give him the opportunity to talk.  Listen carefully while he is speaking. Actively participate in conversations. 

When you are aware of what your husband is thinking and doing, you build camaraderie. Such closeness makes it easier to do things together…take walks, go on dates, indulge a sports activity etc.

Be deliberate

As one flesh, you must consciously consider your husband and yourself as one and treat him as you want to be treated.

Your words…think before you speak. Will this affirm, encourage, inspire or inform or will it discourage, condemn or harm?

Your actions…treat your husband how you want to be treated.  Consider who he is…put yourself in his shoes.

Your reactions…pause and pray BEFORE you respond.

Your marriage must be your closest earthly relationship. When your are deliberate with your words, actions and reactions you demonstrate respect, love and support for your husband.

Be Purposeful

Your husband is your gift, given to you by God to tangible display and experience His love here on earth 

Protect your husband…physically, mentally, emotional and spiritually.

Pray with and for your husband.

Show him affection and affirm him, daily.

Know his love language and meet his needs.

Know your husband well…his weaknesses and his strength.  Be discerning…the adversary seeks to use who and what he can to steal, kill and destroy. Have empathy for him…he too has tests, trials, burdens and battles. Be attentive, meet him at his point of need…rest, relaxation, relief of duty etc.  There will be conflict within your marriage. Provide an opportunity for resolve.  Choose to fight for your husband (your marriage) not against him.

A one flesh marriage is cultivated and maintained daily.  Caring well for your husband is caring well for you. Being inclusive, deliberate and purposeful in your marriage must be your number one priority today, tomorrow…always.

Have you asked yourself lately…Am I intentional about cultivating and maintaining the unity of my marriage?

Are you seeking support and accountability in this season of your womanhood journey? LET’S TALK to see if you and I are a good fit for each other!

Michele Bowie

Coach|Creative|Consultant

“Beauty from the Inside Out”