I Have A Friend In Him

No one prepared me for marriage. I was raised in a single parent home and though my mom was from a relatively big family (she had six siblings) there was only one marriage that lasted for decades. On my fathers side of the family, there were no lasting marriages either. Yet, since I was a child my heart was always drawn to the union of marriage. I looked upon it from afar with great fondness and respect.

When I saw married couples, I would look to the women with interest. Purposely, I would glean their feminine, wifely ways that I so admired. The husbands often appeared to me to be “the captain of the ship”, one that offered direction and security. It was just so appealing to me. I wanted to be wife…I wanted to be married!

When I met my husband it was his kindness that was very appealing. He is also a very sincere man. We were engaged shortly after getting to know each other. As we planned our wedding, if we were not together, we were on the phone. We really enjoyed each other’s company.

Now, after almost three decades together, ten children, the loss of jobs, the loss of family and the loss of our home to fire, together we stand. There have been some rough seasons and very joyful seasons, good days and not so good days. With God, we have learned that we really are better together!

He is my best friend. Even now, as I go through my day, it is him I think of when I want to share. Whether it’s excitement or disappointment, I want to hear what his response to the details of the incident are. I want to laugh with him and I want to be comforted by him.

I really enjoy getting dressed up and going out with my husband, but greater than that I enjoy just “being” with him. Quality time together is very important to both of us. We have a scheduled talk on the couch every weekday morning to catch up on the important things in our lives. On Thursday evenings, we have dinner and watch a movie or a show together at home in our bedroom. We also enjoy working alongside one another in our studio.

When we meet opposition we will often say to one another “May no weapon formed against us prosper”. As we continue along this journey of life I pray that our love and commitment continue to grow until death do us part because not only is he my husband, he is my best friend.