Being united, living harmoniously with Walter was a desire that has become a commitment for me. I once looked at other couples in awe of their display of love, laughter and intimacy. It was all that I desired in our marriage. As I admired theses occasions I prayed, often times in disappointment and frustration unto the Lord as to why we didn’t have this or that in our marriage. The Lord, as he so graciously does, led me to look at myself…my role…my actions.
More and more it became evident to me that “I” could effect change in our marriage. I embodied the hope, the desire and the discipline. I could inspire, empower and implement that which my heart wanted. Oh, but when I looked inside myself, along with these great things, I had iniquity that needed to be addressed. I had to first be honest with myself about how I reeked havoc in our relationship…how I spoke, how I responded, how I didn’t respond…etc. and take responsibility for myself.
What a difference it has been for me since I accepted who I am, my natural tendencies, my character flaws and committed my heart and mind to embracing the Lord and being who I desire to be. To my surprise this longing for a good relationship with Walter has blessed me to love me and to love him more. Now, I know better what I must do regardless of how I feel in the moment…speak to him in his love language, affirm him even when confronting him, respect him as a man and as my husband, always. These actions not only bring us closer together they leave me feeling confident instead convicted and hopeful instead of helpless.
I am God’s child and Walter’s wife. It is so important for me to keep that in proper perspective. Me, submitting myself to God each day and trusting Him, who strengthens and sustains my heart, has given us a firm foundation upon which to continue to build and grow, to unite. We communicate more effectively and we definitely enjoy one another’s company more and regularly. We are not perfect, of course we still have our differences and our disagreements, but I don’t allow them to separate us because I have experienced that we are much better together, united as one.
In the comments, please share…how do you continue to grow and stay united in your marriage?
Fruit of Her Hand 